I Do Coke. I Do Jack – Two! The Reply
-Mikey
You ask ‘who are we gaining independence from’…I’ll tell you. And it has less to do with this generation and more to do with our forefathers that passed this down. Off course ‘Independent man’ sounds silly. In the same way that say ‘colourless water’ sounds silly.
The man has always been independent…The term independent is almost synonymous with the word Man. Society (as far back as African traditional history goes and pretty much many other traditions) has always painted the woman as a dependant and one that needs provision by a man. This in itself is not toxic. What is ugly and what we are seeking ‘independence’ from is the scorn accorded to the said species as a result of this perception that she cannot provide for herself.
You and I agree that yes she can provide and depend on herself…but when she loves you she will let you do these things because you love her but with a full understanding that she can do it for herself. It shouldn’t be a choice of independence or love. I think an independent woman is easier to love.
The journey of life is much better travelled with someone. While you say a man’s needs are simply to have an eat-drink-work-sleep-play lifestyle, remember to leave room for what she wants to do other than stand beside you and watch you eat drink work sleep and play.
Superman didn’t find Loise Lane sitting there doing nothing. She was at work. There is more trouble out there to get into for superman to come save her from 🙂
Nyambura
This entry was posted on April 14, 2011 by Michael Ngigi. It was filed under Guest Writer, LifeSchool, Love & Sex and was tagged with Coca-Cola, Cyber Relationships, Diet Coke, Karl Lagerfeld, Pepsi, Personal Stories, Relationships, Soft drink.
Well said. I agree with every single one of your points, Eva. Also, I am certain that the logic behind Michael’s piece about women and independence was that to being a good human being is a necessary overture to being a woman. Period.
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April 14, 2011 at 3:21 PM
kweli….
sitasema mengi
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April 14, 2011 at 5:18 PM
My two cents. I think men fear women who won’t need them. We are wired to protect and provide. So kama umejisort we may feel unnecessary.
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April 14, 2011 at 10:35 PM
Haha! Thanks man! at least someone agrees with me 🙂
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April 15, 2011 at 10:41 AM
Danzo…you’re right. That’s the truth, its sometimes hard to admit but eeeeeh ni ukweli! It’s very well put in “Act like a lady, Think like a man” by Steve Harvey.
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April 15, 2011 at 12:12 PM