See the World Through My Eyes

Why You Should Cheat

I could get shot for what I’m about to say but I don’t care [Someone had to do it anyway]. I owe it to my readers to always tell them the truth about life. In the process, I risk exposing myself and losing everything I have. So today I will tell you why you need to cheat and not feel guilty about it.

I believe it’s okay to cheat. In fact, your life depends on it! How the hell does one live just committed to one individual? My head hurts just at the thought of stopping everything for one person. It is a crime of dire consequences and the already dead and miserable can bear me witness. We were not made to be committed to one person and we were definitely not made lacking the ability to love more than one.

Please control your emotions and let me finish… 

Let’s do role play. You be the troubled patient and I’ll be your wise shrink. Lie down on my couch and close your eyes. I will ask you questions that I will need you to answer truthfully.

How come you are still lonely despite having a significant other? Do you go through those moments where your life is just blank and aimless when your partner is ‘supposed’ to be there for you? Does it make you wonder why in the first place you have a boyfriend if they can’t seem to do their ‘job’? Do you think that your girlfriend is self centered and only thinks about herself 200% of the time? Is she always going on about her shoes, her moods, her job and whining almost all the time? When was the last time she asked you how you were doing? Oh I forgot, it’s always about her isn’t it? Doesn’t it get to you how she complains that you’ve changed lately?  How she likes the person you were when she first met you? Does a small part of you wish that one day she’ll break up with you and set you free?  Do you feel imprisoned? Does a smaller part of you wish you’d bust her cheating on you at some point  and just kill the relationship abruptly?

Your boyfriend only cares about soccer and is always running the town trying to make that extra buck you don’t need. Is he always shrouded in mystery? Does it feel like he’s playing you? How about his girlfriends that you always suspect and hate with your life? How come they make you angry yet you found them already in his life when you met? Why now? Would you rather he cancel his plans and spend an evening with you over a romantic dinner? Do you feel like he doesn’t understand you anymore? Do you feel like you’d want a guy who’s always there for you, caring for and pampering you? Well I got a solution for you. Cheat on him. Cheat on her. Let’s all cheat on each other and let’s just be one happy planet!

Before you go breaking the champagne and hurling fists at me for bringing out your innermost sentiments, I would like to explain what I mean by cheat.

I want you to take your mind’s eye back to who you were before you met your girlfriend. You used to have great friends, good times and very likely an active hobby. You enjoyed meeting up with those flirty cute girls every once in a while (Every man enjoys the company of  fly women). Remember how your phone always used to be busy with friends calling you up for plans? You never used to schedule any drink ups but they used to come to you. You never missed the weekly soccer practice and the quarterly fishing trips. Come Mondays, you were always upbeat waiting and anticipating for the next exciting experience. You used to be active. You used to be a player!! You were the MAN back then! Let me also guess one more thing, you were never broke! Remember?

And you my dear girl, were really pretty back then. You almost got police protection because the boys wouldn’t let you live in peace. They always waited in line to take you out for dates. You had a great body because work out was your daily devotion. Remember your love for shoes? Everyone knew you had amazing taste. You were quite the dancer too! Was it salsa classes you were taking every evening? You always said salsa was your life. When did you stop writing? Did the inspiration die? Nothing to write about anymore? It must be a long while since you went out with the girls. You always never missed the chance to travel and take pictures. What went down? Now you’re always home when he calls. Always complaining how lonely and bored you are. Forever whining about how he never makes time for you and is always running around with his friends. Look at you! You can’t even watch a movie without falling asleep in the middle of the action scenes! Poor girl, don’t you realize that the world didn’t change? Your man is still the same man you met 5 years ago. The only difference is when he came into your life, you threw your [life] out the window.

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why you fell in love with your significant other in the first place? What did you find attractive in them that was too strong for you to resist? If my guess is right, it’s because they had other ‘loves’ in their lives. It’s what made them stand out. You loved how he was passionate about music and cooking. You liked how she struggled every weekend with her paintings even when the world knew she was a crappy painter. How she was passionate about singing even when all she could manage was a weak croak in the shower.

As humans, we are attracted to people who seem to have the good stuff going for them. People with dreams, ambitions and charisma. People with hobbies and active lives. No one wants to hang out let alone commit to boring and blank people. It’s time to get back to who you were when you first met her. It’s not going to be an easy task my brother. At first, you’ll have to do it behind her back because she won’t take your sudden change of character just lying down. In essence, you’ll have to cheat on her with the good things that made her fall in love with you. I’m talking about those things that you like doing alone. Don’t worry, it is a natural desire to want some alone time every now and then. It would be a strenuous experience to drag your woman when going to have a drink with your friends who are women wouldn’t it? Ever seen a cat fight? No? Good. Don’t be in a hurry to see one.  This ‘cheating’ does not include getting romantically involved with another person while still in a relationship. It does not involve doing things that will hurt the one(s) you love. This ‘cheating’ is about bringing back the spark and setting you and your lover free.

So you like practicing on your guitar alone? Go for it! All I’m saying is that you are more attractive when you have a life of your own. When you have some hobbies and friends that are exclusive to you. Of course there are those things you can do with your partner and have fun while at it but then there are things that define you. Stuff that reminds you that you’re still on course and in control of your life. The moment you lose what makes who you are, you lose your life and you lose all the people around you.

Take time to evaluate and appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, the world loves you back. When you love yourself, you are able to love others without effort. When you develop yourself, you are able to empower others. When you cultivate and are comfortable in your character, the world learns to lean and trust in you.

So go on player, It’s time to cheat on your partner. Don’t feel guilty about it; you will see the results soon enough.

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100 responses

  1. Ha ha ha.. its about self-love. All women should read this, we are worst when it comes to giving all of ourselves to our significant others and losing ourselves in the process.

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    March 13, 2012 at 12:41 PM

  2. Nuzrat Shariff

    Awesome!

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    March 13, 2012 at 12:43 PM

  3. Esy

    FABULOUS READ!!!!:-)

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    March 13, 2012 at 1:05 PM

  4. For a moment i thought you had gone loco by encouraging people to cheat but after reading on i got the point and i agree with you fully……i always “cheat” when im in a relationship. it relaxes me and reminds me that i can still do things on my own 🙂

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    March 13, 2012 at 1:12 PM

  5. lydia

    hahahaa……very interesting and insightful read…..gud stuff n keep it up your going places.

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    March 13, 2012 at 1:16 PM

  6. I’m with you on this one. Girlfriend or no girlfriend, a guy should have a life.

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    March 13, 2012 at 1:24 PM

  7. Nancy

    I totally agree….

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    March 13, 2012 at 2:35 PM

  8. I occasionally read your blog. Today’s title was catchy and the content was just what what I needed. Nice!!!

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    March 13, 2012 at 3:59 PM

  9. Lameck

    I have always known the 666 Lucifer,the devil would come to rule the world.Are you his agent?Do you feed on blood?Wow…its like the article was written in hell to encourage cheaters.

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    March 13, 2012 at 4:24 PM

  10. This is my take, i do believe everything you have said is utterly right but you are looking at the glass half full. lemme quote you in your Puss in boots :”Show me a man who doesn’t like being around beautiful women …”
    The same applies to the girls too, if you show me a girl who doesn’t like to be complimented then i will rest my case. In other words we love companionship irregardless of our situation. So yes, we love attention, we love companionship, we love appreciation, we love being loved….

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    March 13, 2012 at 4:53 PM

    • You put it right. I also think that one of the reason for life being a joke when you become too committed to one person is that they fail to appreciate you (or vice versa). Thus, the same situation can have a remedy in form of communication (but then again the other person has to listen, which is quite another thing)
      Anyway, Simatwa you put out your point very well.

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      March 13, 2012 at 6:33 PM

  11. Amazing stuff. Makes all the sense in the world…come on, let’s all cheat 😀

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    March 13, 2012 at 4:55 PM

  12. Fridah

    This is so true we all need to Love and appeeciate ourselves. This was definately a good read

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    March 13, 2012 at 7:24 PM

  13. sly

    Wow! Accidentally stumbled on this…and i loved it…great piece:0 and so true:) Thanks dude:) will def be cheating on my boyfriend:):)

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    March 14, 2012 at 3:38 PM

  14. Anonymous

    Apart from using a very cony headline… ‘cheat’ LOL this is actually a great article!

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    March 14, 2012 at 4:48 PM

  15. Contemporary thinking. In the superficial sense,love works best wen u put a blind eye

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    March 15, 2012 at 9:19 PM

  16. Ham

    So well said…… we do tend to forget the stuff we enjoyed doing before we got into our current relationships…… Let the games begin 🙂

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    March 17, 2012 at 11:28 AM

  17. sirjohn

    Nice read

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    March 22, 2012 at 7:24 AM

  18. Awesome read! Now lemme go do some cheating…first read something, write something then read and enjoy your other pieces…

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    March 23, 2012 at 3:31 PM

  19. ha ha ha!! good read, done and dusted… I expected something a little hardcore however this is positive cheating. see ya back to my cheating

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    March 28, 2012 at 9:03 PM

  20. Caroline Njuguna

    Thiz z an eye opener for majority people who have suffered in r/shps which they treasure, thiz will rily benefit them …..
    hurray!!! its cheating time

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    March 31, 2012 at 12:14 AM

  21. So true I always believed in having time by ourselves doing what we do with out our significant other but my girlfriends never Listened frustrating.lol

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    April 9, 2012 at 4:41 AM

  22. Perhaps Love should not be adhered to like a religion, all relationships are at risk to suffer from cheating. We have hearts that are capable of loving many other hearts. We got eyes to attract ourselves to many other beings.
    I guess this article can’t suit everyone’s relationship, it depends. But, let’s just say cheating has earned itself a bad reputation before we’ve really gotten to acquaint ourselves to its entire concept.
    Keep it up!

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    April 26, 2012 at 6:48 PM

  23. You have a point but it all depends with the angle you look at it from. We call a relationship headed to a marriage “settling down”.

    We cant go fishing, football and binge drinking all our lives. We have to stop at some point, get lonely and make something better out of our lives.

    The girlfriend will always be home to answer the phone because she is taking care of the kid. I will avoid all the cute guys because I need to stop spending for a while and save for my mortgage.

    Good article depending on the audience.

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    April 28, 2012 at 11:51 AM

  24. Yah tru, that comment “uve changed”…i told my friend that im not here to suffocate him. He shud live life the way he used to. He was suprised…n all i said was it doesnt mean ur lifestyle changes, coz one day ill b dissapointed n use that phrase.

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    July 6, 2012 at 11:01 AM

  25. ntoxxybabe

    Very interesting,,,,,,I much agree to this one!!!

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    September 10, 2012 at 7:32 PM

  26. Anonymous

    Interesting article…love it!!!!

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    June 23, 2014 at 4:49 PM

  27. Jackie Kendy

    So so true…Will definitely share it!!!!

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    June 23, 2014 at 4:51 PM

  28. Anonymous

    L totally agree.

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    June 23, 2014 at 6:04 PM

  29. Anonymous

    I would like to suggest that you use a web font that is spaced for easy readability e.g open sans

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    June 23, 2014 at 6:49 PM

  30. I’m not too sure how i managed to finish this piece Anyway self love is the beginning of a happily ever after

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    June 23, 2014 at 7:24 PM

  31. i hope you just wrote this to get attention or page. if you find yourself lonely and you are in a relationship then she is not the one. ultimately you seem to have a bad string of luck with women, when you find the right woman you will know this dumb post of your is silly and wrong

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    June 23, 2014 at 7:56 PM

  32. An eye opener…i start cheating today 🙂

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    June 24, 2014 at 8:07 AM

  33. Spot on!

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    June 24, 2014 at 8:24 AM

  34. Mmmmh, Nice reading…

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    June 26, 2014 at 10:49 AM

  35. Should have seen me and my breathing till I got to the 4th last paragraph. Very insightful

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    June 26, 2014 at 3:20 PM

  36. gaby

    this is the worst kinda bullshit iv ever heard ,trying to make sense out of bullshit

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    June 30, 2014 at 11:31 AM

  37. You assuming people cheat because they unhappy in their current relationship which is not always the case…people cheat because they can because they want to because they want more than what their current offera or coz they want variety….Goodness! Not all people cheat!!

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    June 30, 2014 at 1:25 PM

  38. Anonymous

    interesting article . . .

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    June 30, 2014 at 3:57 PM

  39. Genevieve

    This was a great article! I totally agree! Can I put a link to this article on my blog? (justagirl.missindependent.co.ke)

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    June 30, 2014 at 4:02 PM

  40. Fred Oduor

    What you are saying is true, but the problem is how you solve it. When you cheat:
    How do you grow your relationship?
    Do you know AIDS is real?
    Are you running away from your problems?
    Did you think you were marrying a perfect human being?

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    June 30, 2014 at 7:53 PM

  41. Anonymous

    You talk rubbish!!! No intellectual, social or moral value in this nonsense you’ve written

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    June 30, 2014 at 8:00 PM

  42. Anonymous

    Lol you idiot

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    June 30, 2014 at 8:30 PM

  43. Maphuza

    That’s truth right there!!!

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    July 1, 2014 at 12:18 AM

  44. Amos

    .

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    July 1, 2014 at 10:33 AM

  45. Even in marriage in community of property one is still an individual. Nice article.

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    July 1, 2014 at 11:13 AM

  46. Thandaza

    I was like is this dude crazy, how can you encourage cheating but after reading the whole blog. Now I totally agree with you self love is needed 4 sure, some time alone and no phone calls in between of where, who and when is needed please.

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    July 1, 2014 at 11:34 AM

    • Anonymous

      Phew someone finally got it….. So many people were reacting I think before reading the whole blog!

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      July 1, 2014 at 12:07 PM

  47. paul

    this article is for people who see as far as their nose.
    if u love each other,and i repeat,if u love each other, nothing else matters…not the boring time in between,and surely not the ‘what is or can be with another person.’
    this article is for pple who want to justify their rogue ways.
    so cheat on,not because of this article,but because its ur life and ur choices.
    but for every course of action you choose,there is a benefit and a price to pay for it.

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    July 1, 2014 at 12:32 PM

  48. Reblogged this on TwistdPieces's Blog and commented:
    I support this message

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    July 1, 2014 at 1:11 PM

  49. Anonymous

    Oh wow nys I like.thank u.let da cheatin begin

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    July 2, 2014 at 9:09 AM

  50. If there’s nothing wrong with cheating and you don’t have to feel guilty about it then I don’t see why you don’t have to tell your partner that you’re cheating. But if you tell them then you’re not cheating. Cheating is wrong. There must be a reason you do it in street corners and hide it from your partner. But if you tell them that you’re with other people then you’re simply not cheating. So cheating is wrong. Hey — just saying 🙂

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    July 2, 2014 at 12:11 PM

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